Lodger claiming that I am harassing?Make Text Bigger
I am recently having problems with my lodger whom I lived with two years and a quarter. I met with the person I will call “A” over one of room advertising website and after A moved in we gradually became good friends and had lots of family occasions together.
Time to time A had work problems and I supported with my best ability and even gave reference to help A find next job. The main reason that I wanted to rent my bedroom was not to be alone with my 5 year old child as I am a single person and living in one of the highest crime areas.
We had got on well and never had any issues and never needed an agreement as well neither any of us suggested. I was very happy with A present for my child as we were like a big family sometimes with A’s brother and their children around.
After two years when A was made redundant as workplace claimed that A had been aggressive towards staff and shouted at one and so many employees gave evidence against A I helped A apply for benefits as I have not seen any of that side of A and mostly listened to A’s side of story and gave a reference to find a new job which was successful.
To help A to apply benefits they asked an accommodation agreement and as I have never seen one before and had time to find one as I am working full time I asked A to bring one and I can sign it. I read the agreement which says “excluded tenancy” and most parts do not even apply and did not see any problems that might occur as everything was smooth.
Soon after signing the agreement in couple of occasions from very little reasons something A said and then claimed that A did not say it. A turned it around and made me look like I was lying. When I asked then A did not accept it and said that is not true and I have changed. A said that I have to be careful that I am doing illegal things and not to call police, but did not answer when I asked what are those things were. Then whenever I try to speak either A said I am saying illegal things or I am using my child as I said I want peace, because I have a child here. A’s whole attitude has changed like no speaking, banging doors, loudly switching lights. Then I write a letter to end her stay and gave A notice for a month. After I have spoken to a lawyer and they sent A official notice to end A’s stay.
Since A received the notices A has changed even more like starting to use blackout curtains and closing her doors at all time and there is no way of me knowing if A is home or not as no hello or bye which worries me a lot. We never had any doors closed or curtains before except night time and A did not even use the blackout ones? Now I am seeing A’s other side I am thinking that A can treat me or my child like did the others at work which I did not believe before.
Can such agreement be valid after two years and nothing on it applied before, but suddenly A started to use them because we have one? And it also worries me that there is a date of one year in the notice period and no break clause.
I made a last attempt to restore our communication by emailing/texting (blocked me from social media and WhatsApp) saying that in short “I need to know that if you don’t stay in the night for security reasons” as from the begging A always texted me if was not going to come home so I can be relax. But now not knowing who is going to try to open the door when A might not stay the night freaks me out. Also we are living in one of the most dangerous areas. Then A replied by saying to “stop keep harassing and as a tenant I don’t have to report to you, but for the sake of record I will be back in few days time.”
How on earth this is harassment? I am not asking A where or what she is doing I just want to know if she is coming home that night for security reasons.
Sorry it is a very long post, but I don’t know what this person up to now. Main reason I had A was to have company and only reason I made this agreement was to help A apply for benefits. Now it has all changed and I need to know what I should be doing?
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