Adam Withford

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Total Number of Property118 Comments: 59

Adam Withford

13:40 PM, 7th February 2020
About 2 weeks ago

R.I.P. David Knox - A.K.A. "Appalled Landlord"

I feel privileged for his insight and critique... Read More

Adam Withford

14:23 PM, 6th February 2020
About 2 weeks ago

Buying Freehold of shared garden

If anyone has any views on this I would also appreciate it. I have a garden that I would like to 'purchase' for my LH flat, that i am a share of FH, and also have 4/7 of the FH share. There are no rights on the LHs to access etc, I would greedily like to claim it for myself as I conducted the FH acquisition for the Lessees and as you can see put up the funds to buy the shares that could not. I do know I will have resistance from one Lessee ( & share FHolder). Is it a matter of valuation survey to attain a value?... Read More

Adam Withford

15:42 PM, 21st January 2020
About 4 weeks ago

Pulled out again due to onerous Ground Rent increases

The GR scam is so rife that I will never buy a flat in anything other than Vic conversions or similar where I have a share of freehold, or no GR and just a split of costs. It just doesn't make good business sense let alone the hassle.

Sure you still fight with other lessees, but you have some say at least.

You will note how few agents place GR & Service charges on the adds for sales. I wonder why?... Read More

Adam Withford

11:20 AM, 24th December 2019
About 2 months ago

Lodger claiming that I am harassing?

Dear Kelly, you need to either get this person A out immediately or leave yourself. Everything you state above is on line with someone who has a personality disorder. I do not take stating this to you lightly! You have a child also, you need to inform the authorities that you feel uncomfortable and are worried for the behaviour of Person A and the safety of your child.

You write above -
Soon after signing the agreement in couple of occasions from very little reasons something A said and then claimed that A did not say it. A turned it around and made me look like I was lying. When I asked then A did not accept it and said that is not true and I have changed. A said that I have to be careful that I am doing illegal things and not to call police, but did not answer when I asked what are those things were. Then whenever I try to speak either A said I am saying illegal things or I am using my child as I said I want peace, because I have a child here. A’s whole attitude has changed like no speaking, banging doors, loudly switching lights.........

This behaviour is controlling and coercive, it is passive aggressive and manipulative. It is the behaviour of a personality disorder to to control with denials and lies, especially those with covert NPD. The outbursts are also a major red-flag. I am not a psychiatrist, but I have gone through much of this myself and have therefore had to learn a lot about it.

You need to be very careful about what you say, do not leave yourself open to them. The basic rule of thumb is to "grey-rock", which means, do not give them anything of yourself that they can use against you. You effectively need to become like a "grey rock", very boring and uninteresting. Do not communicate outside of basic necessity, do not ask them questions, do not answer their questions. This is absolutely necessary to avoid any further web within which you can be ensnared.

Also you need to be aware that they may be spreading lies about you to others so as to lock you into a compromised position. This "harassment" they are talking about is another big red flag. They could be telling lots of people, even the council, that you are harassing them. Do not confront them about it, just go to the authorities and state that you have concerns. Try and talk to their ex boss if you can, they will probably not talk to you, but you can tell them that they may be contacted in future by authorities.

Be very careful, about what you expose to them, and do not confront them. Get yourself rid of them as quietly and with as little drama as you can. Or leave yourself.

Again, you have said many things here that are too obvious to those who are familiar with the patterns to ignore. Go and educate yourself on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, both the overt and covert types. There are many Psychologists on Youtube who are very informative.

Do not tell them that you think this is what they are, do not say you are even researching it.

I am not saying you are in physical danger, but they can make your life absolute hell.

I am also not saying that they are for sure NPD or on the spectrum, but regardless, the symptoms of your experience you state are toxic, and regardless of whether they are or not, you need to get out. Do not give "second chances".

The switching from nice girl to bad girl is also a big red flag. They can behave normally for some time, and they will also pretend that things are ok so that you let your defences down. They will be gauging you to see what they can use or manage of you in the moment. Lieing is like breathing to them. Do not take . my word for it, go and educate yourself.

Do not let fear overtake you though, be as calm and rational and "grey rock" as you can be.

Sincerely and best wishes... Read More

Adam Withford

9:19 AM, 21st December 2019
About 2 months ago

Queen's speech - Section 21 ban?

Reply to the comment left by LILIA FOUNTAIN at 19/12/2019 - 22:31
Nottingham City Council is all that needs to be said from what I have read over the last few years.

The current state of things I see as this;

There is an entitlement by both individuals, and governments upon what they see as their right without considering from whom they are taking such rights from.

Social funding in the way of housing and hand-outs has reached a point whereby it has become a narcotic that creates the illusion that the addicted MUST get their fix. The fear of not continuing the supply is so great that they will do anything to maintain it, and in a failing economy what that means is taking it from those who have self-sufficient means.

As a renter most of my life, I am not alien to the problems, but as a LL I can see the culture of this society with respect to expecting those who 'can afford' to pay for those who 'can not'. It has no end other than the 'legal' claim on others' property.

This problem is cultural, the government (and royal) puppets will only react in a way that 'fixes' a material problem. It is like the medical system that treats only the symptom and not the cause.

If the council can afford to advertise 'reporting Rogue landlords' on the side of their rubbish trucks, maybe they can also put up an advertisement on the opposite side that advertises " reporting Benefit Scammers". Oh, but that might offend someone......... Someone who has the time, and legal aid, to 'put it right'.

I'm not making black and white propositions, I'm stating that the focus is not upon the real problem and it is not gong to be fixed by people like Shelter who get paid over £100k/yr to expound their ego-serving rhetoric and attack what they see as the cause but really is just the symptom.... Read More